Yes. Because small steps stack up. Supporting in neuroplasticity – the brains ability to create new neural pathways. 

Small, consistent steps create momentum. Using polyvagal parenting tools builds shared language, steadier routines, and earlier responses – so you see fewer flare-ups and quicker recoveries at home.

Simply put, you can’t change what you don’t notice. Therefore, The R.U.D Process® builds early warning and options.

It’s the first step to change. When you and your teen notice sensations, cues, and patterns, you can act sooner and de-escalate faster. Our R.U.D Process® + States Tracker make teen emotional regulation at home simple and practical.

Neuroplasticity means the brain and nervous system can change with use – like a path that gets clearer every time you walk it. When we repeat the same small steps, the brain makes that path easier to find next time. This is especially helpful when feelings are hard to name or when stress hits fast.

The R.U.D Process® (Recognise → Understand → Diffuse) turns that idea into action:

• Recognise what’s happening now (body clues and behaviours).

• Understand what your nervous system might be trying to do (protect, connect, or shut down).

• Develop one small, steady step you can add next time it happens to support you. 

By practising the same steps in similar moments, you build a reliable route through stress. Over time, choices come quicker, flare-ups shorten, and routines feel steadier – for teens and adults, including ADHD/autistic family members and those who find feelings hard to name.

Often, yes. For instance, visual prompts and regulated check ins reduce shame spirals for ADHD/autistic teens.

Our resources are neuro-affirming – concrete, visual, and choice-based. They help ADHD/autistic teens notice early signs of RSD, choose a next step, and use family communication scripts that reduce shame and reactivity.

Yes. Everything is neuro-affirming – visual, concrete, choice-based – for ADHD/autistic teens and tweens.

It’s important for young people to understand their nervous system, so that they can build healthy relationships and develop skills like self-regulation.

Taking the time to pay attention to our sensory experiences is a great way of tracking emotions – this helps us put feelings into words, making it easier for us all deal with life challenges in healthier ways. Research suggests that the ability to label an emotion by putting feelings into words can help people better regulate their challenging emotions¹. 

These helpful insights don’t come naturally; we learn them mainly through positive relationships early on in life which gives us confidence when faced with adversity throughout adulthood too!

Blended families often juggle different routines and expectations. We focus on shared language and predictable routines for teens (mornings, homework, evenings) so co-parents and caregivers can respond consistently across homes.

First, use the Card Deck for language.   Then, download the R.U.D + States Tracker to help you start noticing your patterns and habits. 

Yes they can.  Many teens prefer visual prompts and short choices. The deck and routines let you work around long chats – spot patterns, take one small step, and review later.

Absolutely. The visuals and routines transfer to school. Share the States Tracker or a short routine with your SENCO/teacher to keep responses consistent.

No. These are polyvagal tools for parents of teens & tweens that complement therapy or healthcare. If you’re worried about risk or health concerns, follow local safeguarding and medical guidance.

Yes our Glad We Talked® – Finding My Steady is our polyvagal informed  flagship programme for better family communication programme (teens) that helps you open safer conversations and repair after tough moments.

Absolutely yes. Yes. All can take part in The R.U.D Process® just print out worksheets for each or use our fillable pdf worksheets to fill out on your devices.